“I’ve seen a lot of shifts over the years,” Big Al says after explaining a reverse kegel called the DLD Blaster. “When I first started, most guys were just looking for raw size — length and girth.” As time has passed, though, he’s given much more attention to things like erection quality, sexual confidence and addiction to porn. In fact, these days, four out of five of Big Al’s clients are self-diagnosed porn addicts.
Since I’m more interested in length over girth gains, after warming up with the rice sock, Big Al assigns 100 reps of the “Side-to-Side Stretch.” In a standing position, I grab my flaccid penis right below the head (avoiding the glans) and pull down. Maintaining that tension, I proceed to pull it left and right, like a ticking grandfather cock. The goal is to eventually reach 2,000 reps, but after 100, my dick is sufficiently fatigued.
Interestingly, studies suggest that men attribute more importance to penis size than their female partners. Generally, what is more, important to women is a partner who is tender and caring. Discovering how your partner likes to be touched and caressed tends to make for better sex. The idea that a woman’s priority during sex is to be penetrated by a giant penis isn’t that accurate. In fact, it’s not the inside of the vagina where most of the pleasurable sensations come from, it’s on the outside, at the clitoris, where the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body can be found. You don’t need a big penis (or any penis) to stimulate her there. During intercourse, a woman’s vagina adapts to her partner’s penis, deepening, widening and lubricating during sexual arousal, so in this sense, the size is not so important. Also, a smaller penis is often preferable for oral and anal sex.