Unfortunately, whenever it’s recognised that people feel insecure about an aspect of themselves, such as their appearance or sexuality, there will be unscrupulous types who’ll try to turn it into a money-making opportunity. This is why ads for miracle ‘cures’ for the small penis abound – on the internet, in magazines, in your inbox – not because they work, but because the advertisers know that millions of men hope these claims just might be true.
In a last brief conversation with Alistair, he asks if I would ever consider going under the knife. I tell him I’ve seen such a bewildering array of shapes and sizes over the past few weeks, I don’t even know what normal is any more. If it does the job nature intended, I say, that should be enough. For many men wanting an enlargement, it’s probably not so much about what’s in their pants as what, somewhere along the way, has got into their minds – and that can’t be fixed by a fat injection and a severed ligament.
The penis reaches adult size over a number of years during puberty (the years during adolescence when boys and girls grow and change to become adult men and women). A boy who matures more slowly than his friends will not get an adult-size penis until late in adolescence – and this may cause anxiety or make him feel as though he has an abnormally small penis.
The appearance of your genitals is affected by temperature and your state of mind. Feeling cold and anxious will cause your testicles and penis to shrink. In contrast, they will appear larger when you are warm and relaxed, such as after a bath. Heterosexual men tend to only glimpse other men’s penises from a sideways view in changing rooms at the gym. Looking at your penis from the viewpoint of top-down, is a ‘perception-shortening angle’, so it might appear shorter than others, but not necessarily be so. Another common source of comparison is pornography. Given that male porn actors are often employed for their unusually large penises, comparing your body to theirs is not going to normalise how you feel and is likely to add to feelings of inadequacy.
FDA has identified an emerging trend where over-the-counter products, frequently represented as dietary supplements, contain hidden active ingredients that could be harmful. Consumers may unknowingly take products laced with varying quantities of approved prescription drug ingredients, controlled substances, and untested and unstudied pharmaceutically active ingredients. These deceptive products can harm you! Hidden ingredients are increasingly becoming a problem in products promoted for sexual enhancement.
One of the things I took away from dating him is how insecure men can be about their penis size. So whenever I date anyone, I always tell them the very specific details in how I love their penis. I never lie – that would be too tough to maintain long-term – but I always find something. Huge girth. Love the way it curves. The hardest I’ve ever been with. I can barely fit it in my mouth. Whatever. I don’t understand the penis-insecurity but I am going to do my best to rid this world of penis insecurities, one cock at a time.