This is not some fanciful idea, or is it theoretical hogwash. Evidence from one study of 367 military personnel, all men, and no one older than 40, found those who felt most satisfied in terms of male genital self-image had lower levels of sexual anxiety and better sexual functioning. And what about the self-doubting ones, those who disliked the appearance of their member? The researchers found the opposite to be true in some (though not all) cases. Dissatisfaction led to anxiety, which led to sexual difficulties — a vicious cycle.
Tanya (San Diego, California)—My fiancé’s penis size has always been something of a hush, hush topic for me because, having been with larger men in the past, he’s just over five and a quarter inches long and just under 4 inches around, I missed the intensity of the sex I used to have with larger endowed lovers from the past. I know is size is average, on the smaller side of average. And it’s not that he couldn’t give me an orgasm (sometimes), the thing about Travis (let’s call him that for the sake of this letter) is that he’s very focused and works very hard to please me. He knows what to do with his tongue and fingers and even his penis, but it’s always just been a matter of him working within his means. Before any guys read this and think that I’m just being a selfish bitch, it’s not like that. I never did reveal to Travis that his penis size was a problem for me, and I never ever would have. His feelings are very important to me, so I would have just gone on silently longing for the big hard intensity that I missed from the past.
I found that passionate professionalism a bit unnerving to be honest, but then again, I’ve never had weekly strategy sessions about my dick with a stranger. Like, how do you respond to a statement like this before lunch: “Be very careful not to grip the glans during your exercises, Brian. If you need to use some talcum powder to enhance your grip, that would be fine. Remember to update your log.”
So how can we be sure it really exists? “Because the number of men seeking surgery, or the growth of this strange industry selling pills and other so-called enlargement remedies, these numbers do not map up with the numbers of men who actually have a significantly smaller penis than average,” Veale says. “So, these men are worrying about – and seeking solutions for – a problem they do not have.”